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How to win my ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend?
My boyfriend and I for 4 yrs broke up 8 months ago. But 6 months ago we still have contact with each other and sometimes were still sweeet and we even tried the "friends with benefits thingy" he's in the army so he only went home for a week. But before his january break end. I decided to finally let it go since its not working anymore i bid my goodbyes and change my cellphone no. And then we started to talk again but this time he said he's goodbye and thinks that its not working anymore. So i let him after a week a meet a new guy friend and we decided to PRETEND to be together for my ex to be jealous. And it works he blocked me on fb and started to ask my friend about the guy, but i decided to tell the truth that he's not my boyfriend since he's been telling his friends that i have a bf already. he even tried to call me but i didnt answer and he said some lame excuse for calling me. Now he just went back to the army after his 1 weeek march break. But this time he didnt contact me anymore he just hang out with his friend. I saw him on the bus the other day but he looked away as if i dont exist. And then i found out that he now courting a girl which is one of he's friends and i ask him trough call that he's serious about the girl and that he dont love me anymore and ask to let him go. Even though i already let him go 2 months ago.!! Now iam confused its still hurt so bad i dont know why. It hurts to know he love someone else without expecting him to come back? What shoul i do? Do i still love him or am i just being jealous ?:( pleaasseee help i hat this feeling
Best Answer
The only way to at least have a chance at getting an ex back is to re-gain your dignity. This means you must dry those tears, wash your face, stand up tall and proud and without crying but with a re-newed confidence tell him you love him but do not want him if he does not want you, and then you wish him well and let him go. Now, this will be the most difficult thing you ever had to do, but you must do it for any possible chance of winning him back, and if he doesn't come back doing this will make it easier for you to let go because you will be left with your dignity and pride in place. Most times when someone leaves a relationship it is due to many reasons, but the bottom line is that what they used to see in the other person is not there any more. In other words, what once attracted him to you has faded. You must re-gain that attraction.
Once you let him go and do not call him or ask about him in time he will begin to change his mind about you. He will begin to see you with respect and admiration for your strength. This is a slow process and at times you will feel he is not paying attention to how strong you are, but trust me, he will pay attention. He needs to come to see you as a prize to cherish and win, not as a clingy, crying desperate person. Don't cry, it is not over until it is over. Best of luck to you!
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